Recently I was looking though some old letters and unexpectedly found a note to my wife that I sent from Spain in 1965! It was exciting to relive my first experiences in Spain and striking to see how my first impressions continue to be confirmed, even now, almost 50 years later!
Since the 1960s, my family and I have enjoyed spending time with hundreds of Spanish families, and we even lived for two years in one of the sherry towns of Andalucía. But oddly enough my love for Spain had roots in my childhood – long before I had even met a Spaniard.
I was a "latchkey kid" who, for several years, was alone at home after my school day ended. I passed the time listening to jazz and browsing magazines and art books (there was no television). I was particularly drawn to a beautiful book devoted to the pictures of the mystical Spanish painter, El Greco. His depiction of the spiritual dimension of humanity and the emotional depth of his vision resonated deeply with me.
However, it was not until sixteen years later that I made a firsthand connection with the people and culture of Spain. In 1965, they were still recovering from an enormously bloody civil war, and years of hunger and deprivation. Yet despite this, I observed their strong family ties and their love of children. I found it a joy to be among them.
I was a newly commissioned Navy chaplain and Ruth and I were newlyweds planning to settle in Washington, DC for a two or three year Navy tour. However, at the last minute I was ordered to a destroyer squadron in Virginia to replace an ailing chaplain. It was quite a shock; Ruth staying alone in an unfamiliar city, and I joining the crew of my first Navy ship for a six-month cruise after only eight weeks of marriage.
While deployed, my communication with Ruth was the old-fashioned way – by U.S. Mail. This was long before the age of instant communication and virtually free telephone calls. The other day I came across the first letter of the cruise, in which I told Ruth of my enthusiasm for Spain and her people. It was an amazingly detailed letter (I loved writing even 50 years ago!) and provided a peek into the past. I will share some of it with you below.
That March, after a North Atlantic crossing, the four ships of the destroyer division nested along the pier in Valencia. Lucky for us it was during the week of Las Fallas – an annual extravaganza of food, drink, thundering fireworks and gigantic homemade satirical images that the creators would set ablaze on the final day, on the feast of San José. It is an astonishingly noisy event. The young sailors were delighted!
One day at a tapas bar in port, my thoughts went back to my childhood. I thought to myself, "Here I am in Spain; this is my chance to meet El Greco face to face, so to speak." So I left the Las Fallas festivities and caught the Talgo train to Madrid and the Prado Museum – it was only a two-hour train ride away. I was not at all prepared for what happened next, it was a life changing experience. I wrote to Ruth back home:
When I entered the Prado Museum and encountered room after room filled with El Greco’s work, I was overwhelmed with emotion and I could not tear myself away from his paintings. They were truly a religious experience.
I was so entranced or enmeshed in this experience that the only possible thing to do was to drive out to Toledo to see more of his work, the town he lived in, the cathedral he worshiped in and the whole milieu, which produced such a profound man.
So my shipmate and I caught a taxi to Toledo. It was an amazing sight. I wrote to Ruth:
It was just as {El Greco} had painted it and was easily 400 years behind times. Virtually no cars could be seen, little electricity, no heating, no English spoken, a big central plaza stocked with appropriate Castilian peasant-types, narrow winding dirt roads pounded down by centuries of use weaving between the very close brick houses and gates.
For centuries, Toledo was the political and intellectual heart of Spain. It is located on a series of hills and encircled by an immense wall. The Romans occupied it until 190 AD when it became the seat of the Visigoth kingdoms. About two centuries later, the Moors captured Toledo and ruled it for 370 years until the Christians of the Reconquest gained sovereignty in 1082. Toledo is the soul of Spain, and I wrote to my wife with great enthusiasm:
The whole city is a huge chalky hill with buildings a uniform ochre color. The Cathedral is the most moving in all Europe as far as I am concerned. It is full of treasures donated by most of the top figures in history. The woodwork is exquisite in its carving and design, as well as its embodiment of Spanish mysticism. The reredos behind the altar soars 50 feet or more and is an intricate woodcarving portraying the life of Christ in florid Spanish Gothic style. It was so overwhelming that I literally was brought to my knees.
I still see this Spain today, even as we move farther into the 21st century. The mystical spirit of El Greco, whom I met as a child, is what makes Toledo holy for me. The locus of Spain’s soul lies among the churches, synagogues and mosques built by her inhabitants over hundreds of years. Most of all, I sense this core value among my Spanish friends today. It is a spirituality, which greets all people as sacred, of equal value.
This April, Ruth and I returned to Toledo. This time, amidst the hustle and bustle of hundreds of tourists and locals, we encountered a group of 80 choirboys who had come from Japan to give a sacred concert in the cathedral. We joined them and hundreds of other faithful the next morning as we processed with palm fronds along the cobble-stoned streets that surround the cathedral. We were among people who had gathered from all over Spain to celebrate El Dia de Ramos, Palm Sunday. Toledo was no longer a place of winding dirt roads, but rather a quietly splendid city with the Zocodovar plaza packed with young people on Easter vacation.
Not in Toledo alone, but in so many cities in Spain, it is not the buildings, but the children, the parents, the grandparents, the people of all generations who continue to maintain the traditions, unaffected by cycles of prosperity and hardship. I have great faith in the Spanish people – their foundation is strong. Their loving families, cherished children and spiritual roots remain their anchor. From the first day I stepped ashore so many years ago, I felt at home. I am truly grateful to the culture and people who have had such a profound influence on my life, and for the opportunity to reciprocate through La Tienda.
Atentamente,
Don



12 Comments
Thank you for bringing back my beautiful memories of visiting Toledo and El Greco. Your article and letter make me proud of my Spanish heritage. All my family was born in Spain.
Response:
Dear Connie,
I am glad you honor your ties to the land of your parents. Within you today is a little bit of Spain.
Gracias Don por este articulo que publicaste y tu apreciación por mi tierra y mi gente, sobretodo por contarnos tu experiencia en Toledo. Yo nací en esa ciudad y la casa de mis padres estaba muy cercana a la casa de El Greco. Conocí a mi esposo en Toledo y hay nos casamos en 1964, Como puedes ver nuestros caminos se cruzaron en 1965 durante tu visita a Toledo, es en verdad una ciudad mágica reconocida como tal por El Greco. También tienes razón y es cierto que para nosotros los hijos es lo mas precioso y cuando los decimos que son nuestros tesoros eso no es por darlos un piropo es una certeza de nuestros sentimientos.Gracias una vez mas por la pasión que veo tienes por todo lo que es Español, De paso también gracias por La Tienda de donde soy cliente vuestro desde hace ya varios años.
Sinceramente,
Carmen
Response:
Muchas gracias, Carmen. I cannot repeat enough that the key to a good life is to be cherished from birth — and that is what the traditional Spanish way of life offers. We don’t have to be Spanish to emulate the way they respond to their children — we can do it too, I am grateful for their example — bearing in mind that none of us are perfect.
I love Spain, especially the Spanish people they are outstanding.
Response:
Dear Don, I am glad you have been able to enjoy some fine times with your Spanish neighbors. Those experiences are long lasting.
I always say that my heart is in Spain, my soul in Sevilla (my native city) and my brain in the USA. I have been in the USA since 1962 with the exception of two years when I had to leave the country until I finally got my immigrant visa (the famous green card). I have deep roots in this beautiful country, that I love (10 grandchildren and 5 great-grand), but I still miss greatly “mi Sevilla”. I came to the USA to become an specialized MD and become a surgeon, which I did. I really loved you writings about my old country, you are a good writer.
God Bless,
Emilio
Response:
Thank you Emilio, you became a surgeon in America! What an important gift Sevilla gave us in the person of you. I am glad to help bring back fond memories and recollections of your roots.
My husband Paul and I have just returned from a 26 day visit to Spain. He too was stationed there in 1968. We were married in the British Consul’s office in Bilboa in 1970. Both of our children were born in Torrejon AFB hospital (though 8 years apart and different tours of duty). We too feel a deep connection to the country and the people, so deep, in fact, that we return each year to visit. Sometimes it is to visit our Spanish/Basque “family” or to explore an area that we do not know intimately. As I said in one of our blogs, Spain is like an onion, you can keep peeling away the layers and find something new and fresh every time. We also re-visited Toledo this September. I remember back in the 70s exploring that wonderful city. An amazing experience and it was again, wonderful. For us visiting Spain is like going home again. Congratulations on your award from the Spanish government, it is well deserved. We enjoy your posts so much, thank you. It keeps us going until we return to our beloved Spain. Next year a bunch of retired GIs are meeting in Elizondo, Navarra for a reunion. Gorramendi was a communication site on top of a mountain. The people in the village were so kind to the boys in the 60s and 70s and still talk about them. We have advised them (old GIs) to take a photo of themselves when they were young so they will be recognized!
Response:
How nice to hear from you. Isn’t it uncanny how we feel we are coming home when we return to Spain? Of course rationally speaking we are not coming home, but flying away from home to be there.
I have never felt that way about any other place I have been. I am sure you know what I mean.
Abrazos to you and your family,